Physical intimacy is important in a relationship, everyone wants affection! One top complaint from men in relationships is when the physical intimacy takes a nosedive. Unfortunately, when those snuggles and more become non-existent everyone can feel a little left out in the cold. Here are ten tips on how to rekindle the romance!
- You know those little things she asks you to do, but they seem to slip your mind? Like, put your socks in the hamper, or take the trash out? Make a concerted effort to do those things so that she knows you are listening and that you do care about her comfort. No one feels sexy towards the person whose socks they have to pick up.
- Send her sweet and perhaps slightly seductive texts during the day when you are at work.
- Suggest taking a shower together, offer to wash her hair for her while you are in there. How luxurious does it feel to have your hair washed by someone else? Very, and it’s definitely hot.
- Plan an evening without her input. Hire the babysitter, pick the restaurant and take her to a movie that you know she wants to see at the theater.
- Run her a bubble bath. Then while she is luxuriating amidst the bubbles, bring in a tray with chocolate covered strawberries and a glass of wine. Do not allow children, pets or phone calls to interrupt her bliss.
- Rub her feet! Bonus points if you use a yummy scented lotion and extra bonus points if you paint her toenails for her.
- Write a sweet note and leave it in her car, on her pillow or in the bathroom.
- Wash her car for her. Bonus points if you do it without a shirt on.
- Tell her what is attractive about her. Not just “You have a great rack sweetie!”, but tell her what makes her special. “I love the way you laugh, it is so sexy.” is specific to her, not just a general compliment.
- Ask her what she needs from you, and mean it. Most dead bedrooms come from lack of communication between partners. Both people want to be close, but needs may not be met in other areas, which makes intimacy harder.
With these ten tips hopefully you will be able to strengthen your bond and heat up the bedroom!
President of Albuquerque Family Counseling
Albuquerque Family Counseling sponsors National Marriage Week
ALBUQUERQUE, NM. – Albuquerque Family Counseling is getting involved with the well-known campaign, National Marriage Week USA. Every year, Marriage Week is promoted in various parts of the world from February 7-14.
In honor of this movement, Albuquerque Family Counseling is building an online campaign that offers incentives through local businesses in the NM area, in hopes to emphasize the importance of putting effort toward every marriage.
Prizes will be offered from the following local businesses:
- Acequia Vineyards and Winery
- All Things Boudoir
- Enlighten Wellness Center
Albuquerque Family Counseling is initiating their involvement on their Facebook page, Albuquerque Family Counseling: @abqfamilycounseling. By visiting the Facebook page and participating in their posts the week of the national campaign, all viewers will have multiple chances to win a variety of prizes.
About ALBUQUERQUE FAMILY COUNSELING:
Albuquerque Family Counseling is a private practice specializing in couples and relationship counseling and coaching. With over 50 years of experience, Albuquerque Family Counseling is dedicated to continual training and development to bring the most current, proven, and effective methods to each client. All specialists have received training with the best-known relationship experts and programs in the country- Gottman, Imago, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Divorce Busting. Albuquerque Family Counseling has a 100-percent approval and referral rating from former clients.
Conflict doesn’t mean that your relationship is in trouble – it means that you are two living, thinking beings with individual opinions. Both happy and unhappy couples disagree – how can any two people share a house, jobs, in-laws, pets or kids without an occasional spat? Everyone disagrees at some point – but when do you know that things are out of hand?
There’s a world of difference between constructive criticism and dirty fighting. With the right tools and mind set, conflict can actually become a path to deeper intimacy – the chance to be seen as you truly are, to accept your partner’s vulnerable and unique self, and to build a strong partnership.
Partnerships and couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don’t need to squabble, argue, bicker, or fight. Fights are dramatic, which is not helpful to a discussion. If you have enough energy to create drama, you have more than enough to tone it down into a discussion. Here are a set of guidelines you may find helpful in arguing.
- Remember the point of the fight is to reach a solution, not to win, be right, or make your partner wrong.
- Don’t try to mind read. Ask instead what he or she is thinking.
- Don’t bring up all the prior problems that relate to this one. Leave the past in the past; keep this about one recent problem. Solve one thing at a time.
- Keep the process simple. State the problem, suggest some alternatives, and choose a solution together.
- Practice equality. If something is important enough to one of you, it will inevitably be important to both of you, so honor your partner’s need to solve a problem.
- Ask and Answer questions directly. Again, keep it as simple as possible. Let your partner know you hear him or her.
- State your problem as a request, not a demand. To make it a positive request, use “I messages” and “please”.
Next time you have an argument, practice some of these guidelines and you will be amazed at how the interaction will change.