Wishing everyone a very Happy Thanksgiving! May you all have a day filled with love, peace and happiness.
5 Tips to Communicate Successfully with Your Partner When Stressed
We all go through difficult and stressful times in our lives and relationships. It’s normal and expected. However, it can also place a strain on our relationships – even if it’s something like work, school, or other life-changes causing the stress.
Whatever the reason you’re feeling stressed, it’s important to maintain healthy communication with your partner. Start with these 5 tips to get you started:
- Be aware of your stress. As adults, we’ve lived with ourselves for at least two decades now. We know how our bodies react to stress and what tips us over the edge. When you feel yourself becoming stressed, let your partner know. If you are both aware of it, you can support each other by making a point not to take stress out on one another and/or not take it personally if our partner slips up and says something unhelpful.
- Embrace empathy. Empathy is difficult sometimes, especially if we don’t understand why someone is reacting a certain way. If your partner is stressed out, let them know you have empathy and are there to support them – even if you don’t get it. Offer to listen to their stressors, emotions, and heartache non-judgmentally. Afterwards, ask what they need from you.
- Apologize. Stress can make us snippy, mean, and unhappy. If you find yourself making verbal swipes at your partner, check yourself and your communication style. If you say something mean or unsupportive, apologize. Let your partner know you appreciate your support.
- Reduce the stress. Take a deep breath before your communicate with your partner in order to manage your stress and emotions in the short term. In the long term, find a way to manage your stress effectively. Not only will this help your physical, mental, and emotional health, but it will also strengthen your relationship.
- Practice healthy communication. By practicing healthy communication with your partner on a daily basis, it will be easier to communicate in difficult situations when you are experiencing stress. Rather than falling back on bad habits, you’ll be able to fall back on healthy habits that keep your relationship strong!
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Gender Differences Affect Money and Finance
The traditional view of gender, money and finances states that men are in charge of the money therefore they are more concerned about staying within a budget. The men in a relationship are also more concerned about the long-range goals a couple might have such as owning a home someday or retiring early. The traditional female role was secondary when it came to money and finances.
Although this might have been the stereotypical picture of most couples, almost everyone knows of a couple where the roles seem reversed. The women are aghast at their husband’s spendthrift ways and there is a constant struggle between the two to decide whether money is used for spontaneous fun or as a tool for eventual economic freedom.