Help my marriage

Commitment is a crucial piece of any relationship, but commitment looks different to everyone.

Commitment in a relationship

Bride and groom cupcakes for a wedding

Once upon a time, many looked at marriage as the ultimate symbol of commitment to another person. However, many Millennials are choosing to forgo marriage completely in favor of unmarried partnerships.

Does this mean Millennials are less committed to their romantic partners? Absolutely not. Instead, it shows a significant change in what commitment looks like within this generation.

That is okay, because your relationship is your relationship. No one else gets to decide what that looks like, as long as both you and your significant other are happy.

When considering commitment in your relationship, consider the following points determine what your commitment should like!

  1. First, start by asking what advice on commitment would you give to another person. Your answers will identify your beliefs on commitment.
  2. Ask each other what commitment means to them. This conversation allows you to agree on a set of standards you want in your relationship to signify your love and commitment to one another.
  3. Actions speak louder than works! Once you have agreed upon what commitment looks like in your relationship, follow through with making those actions part of your relationship.
  4. Spending time together signifies commitment in any relationship, although the amount of time you spend together may change depending on your personal preferences. Are you good living across the country and seeing each other once a month? Fantastic! How will you spend that time together? Do you live in the same home? Awesome! How will you spend your time together?
  5. Finally, put yourself in your significant other’s shoes. Doing so will help you understand what they need and where they are coming from. Part of a relationship is that give and take, so truly trying to experience it as their partner shows your dedication.

Trust Issues: Betrayal vs. Early Patterns

Trust IssuesTrust is the bedrock of any relationship. Unless you trust the other person to be faithful to you, to be good to you and to tell you the truth, you’re not going to get very far in a relationship. Imagine a relationship in which you’re constantly suspecting that the other person is lying to you. This is not as rare as you might imagine. There are many relationships in which people experience a lot of doubt. Some are sure that the other person is lying to them about money. Others feel like they’re being cheated on even if they have no proof.

Why Do Trust Issues Arise?

There are times when this trust issue arises from a betrayal but there are also times when it’s completely unnecessary i.e., the other person might not be doing anything to betray your trust but you still have doubts about them. Sometimes, not trusting the other person is a pattern that people get into when they are young. Maybe they saw the same pattern existing between their parents. Or maybe their first relationship ended badly when they were at an impressionable age. Either way, people like this are never able to trust others because they’ve made up their minds that no one in the world is trustworthy.

Being with Someone Who Doesn’t Trust You

Being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t trust you can be very frustrating. No matter how much you try to show the other person that you love them, they refuse to believe you. And they twist the evidence present so that it’s in their favor. Any little thing you do wrong is taken as evidence of your lack of love and your lack of trustworthiness. Being in a relationship like this takes a toll on the partner who is constantly running around trying to prove their love.

Can You Make Someone Trust You?

If this describes you, you need to take a step back and think about whether the other person really has a reason not to trust you or whether they just don’t trust you because of baggage they’re carrying around from the past. Because if it’s the latter, then there’s not much you can do to resolve the issue. But if their lack of trust arose because of a betrayal on your part, then you can try counseling, learn to communicate better and of course, behave in a trustworthy manner from that point forward.

Relationship Advice: To Take or Not to Take, That Is the Question!

No matter where you turn nowadays, you’re likely to get relationship advice. It’s a topic on which everyone feels they’re qualified, whether they are in a good relationship themselves or not. Some of the usual culprits include parents, siblings, married and unmarried friends and even work colleagues.

Should You Listen to Relationship Advice?

It’s easy to react to the barrage of information and advice and get annoyed or irritated. After all, it’s your life. So why should you listen to what anyone has to say? Your way of having a relationship might be quite different from theirs. The things you’re looking for might also be quite different. So it doesn’t make any sense to conduct your relationship in the way someone else would.

Qualities Needed in Any Relationship

Aren’t there certain things that are needed in every relationship such as a healthy dose of patience and understanding? Don’t you have to be a good listener and allow the other person to vent whenever they need to? Don’t you have to be cognizant of your own needs and communicate them to the other person to make sure that they’re being met?

A Relationship Involves a Delicate Balance

In a relationship, you have to think about yourself as well as the other person. If you focus too much on any one, then the relationship becomes lopsided. For example, if you’re constantly thinking of the other person in the relationship and putting your own needs second, this will eventually put a lot of pressure on that person to live up to your expectations. And they may end up feeling inadequate when they’re not able to do so.

In some ways, being selfless can destroy a relationship as well as being selfish. This is something that all the people offering advice may not be able to tell you, because it goes against conventional wisdom.


Special Package!
$299 for 4 sessions (Regularly $400) or individual session $79

We’ve won an award!