Physical intimacy is important in a relationship, everyone wants affection! One top complaint from men in relationships is when the physical intimacy takes a nosedive. Unfortunately, when those snuggles and more become non-existent everyone can feel a little left out in the cold. Here are ten tips on how to rekindle the romance!
- You know those little things she asks you to do, but they seem to slip your mind? Like, put your socks in the hamper, or take the trash out? Make a concerted effort to do those things so that she knows you are listening and that you do care about her comfort. No one feels sexy towards the person whose socks they have to pick up.
- Send her sweet and perhaps slightly seductive texts during the day when you are at work.
- Suggest taking a shower together, offer to wash her hair for her while you are in there. How luxurious does it feel to have your hair washed by someone else? Very, and it’s definitely hot.
- Plan an evening without her input. Hire the babysitter, pick the restaurant and take her to a movie that you know she wants to see at the theater.
- Run her a bubble bath. Then while she is luxuriating amidst the bubbles, bring in a tray with chocolate covered strawberries and a glass of wine. Do not allow children, pets or phone calls to interrupt her bliss.
- Rub her feet! Bonus points if you use a yummy scented lotion and extra bonus points if you paint her toenails for her.
- Write a sweet note and leave it in her car, on her pillow or in the bathroom.
- Wash her car for her. Bonus points if you do it without a shirt on.
- Tell her what is attractive about her. Not just “You have a great rack sweetie!”, but tell her what makes her special. “I love the way you laugh, it is so sexy.” is specific to her, not just a general compliment.
- Ask her what she needs from you, and mean it. Most dead bedrooms come from lack of communication between partners. Both people want to be close, but needs may not be met in other areas, which makes intimacy harder.
With these ten tips hopefully you will be able to strengthen your bond and heat up the bedroom!
President of Albuquerque Family Counseling
Albuquerque Family Counseling sponsors National Marriage Week
ALBUQUERQUE, NM. – Albuquerque Family Counseling is getting involved with the well-known campaign, National Marriage Week USA. Every year, Marriage Week is promoted in various parts of the world from February 7-14.
In honor of this movement, Albuquerque Family Counseling is building an online campaign that offers incentives through local businesses in the NM area, in hopes to emphasize the importance of putting effort toward every marriage.
Prizes will be offered from the following local businesses:
- Acequia Vineyards and Winery
- All Things Boudoir
- Enlighten Wellness Center
Albuquerque Family Counseling is initiating their involvement on their Facebook page, Albuquerque Family Counseling: @abqfamilycounseling. By visiting the Facebook page and participating in their posts the week of the national campaign, all viewers will have multiple chances to win a variety of prizes.
About ALBUQUERQUE FAMILY COUNSELING:
Albuquerque Family Counseling is a private practice specializing in couples and relationship counseling and coaching. With over 50 years of experience, Albuquerque Family Counseling is dedicated to continual training and development to bring the most current, proven, and effective methods to each client. All specialists have received training with the best-known relationship experts and programs in the country- Gottman, Imago, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Divorce Busting. Albuquerque Family Counseling has a 100-percent approval and referral rating from former clients.
Top 10 Ways To Have The Best Holidays Ever!
The Christmas holiday season will soon be upon us. And with it will come the hope that this one will be truly magical. However, many of us quickly get bogged down in busyness, stress and old patterns. Here are 10 ways to turn that dynamic around and get that holiday magic back again.
- Give yourself a break. Perfection-even perfect happiness-just isn’t possible. Let your best be good enough. Make a budget for both your time and your money-andstick to it. It really is the thought that counts.
- Make conscious decisions. Get clear about what you really want to do over the holidays before compromising with others. If you don’t have a clear plan and clear intentions, it’s easy to get swept along by others’ desires. Even if you do compromise later, get yourself clear first.
- Shorten your to-do list. What do the holidays really mean to you? For many, it’s about family and friends and spirituality. If an action or to-do item doesn’t add to your holiday spirit, scratch it off.
- Say no when you want to. It’s very liberating- I promise! Try it and see- it sounds simple, but too often obligation trumps desire. When faced with options, choose the one that would make you happier.
- Limit obligatory activities. If you can’t avoid certain events, limit the time you’re there.
- Take good care of yourself. The old standards help keep stress at bay: eat healthfully, exercise, drink lots of water, and breathe deeply. Schedule time for relaxation and fun.
- Start early. To avoid a last-minute frenzy that can bust your budget, start shopping or making presents now.
- Ask for help. Reject any notion of martyrdom. The burden of preparations should not fall upon one person. The more specific you are in your request, the more successful you’ll be.
- Establish new traditions. If you have experienced a major life-changing event, such as a death or divorce, consider doing something you’ve never done before over the holidays, such as travel to another country or take a cruise.
- Get support. If a glorious holiday season feels completely out of reach, you may experience the holiday blues. Many people do.Don’t beat yourself up for feeling that way.
Reach out for the support you need.