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Couples and Relationships: Keeping the Spark Alive

Relationships can grow stale over time, especially when you have lived together for years. Keeping the spark alive is no easy task and can be a huge stumbling block for couples in a relationship. You may feel unattractive to your partner from extra weight or wrinkles gained over the years, but looking good, while maybe helpful, is not what keeps passion alive – a true connection, loyalty, and love are what fuel the flames in any marriage. Here are 3 tips for keeping the spark alive in your relationship.

Some Like It Hot

Keeping the passion alive requires effort. Go out of your way to create a clean and harmonious home space for this is the setting for your romance. Try to make sure all rooms are neat and free of clutter. Decorate with pinks, reds, and whites to spark some loving feelings in the air. When you feel comforted by your surroundings you are more likely to get in the mood. Make sure that you have a warm and cozy bed with clean sheets and pillowcases.

Date night

Making a weekly date night, or at least monthly time, to go out to dinner and enjoy yourselves is so important. If you don’t have the money, it’s good you’re here, have a date night at home. It’s great to sit down for a meal together as a couple, talk, and look into each other’s eyes. Use this time to plan your dreams, discuss your passions, or even plain old small talk will suffice. The concept is to carve out time for both of you to relax and enjoy each other’s company.

Between the sheets

Sadly a healthy sex life is something a lot of people lack. It’s important in a romantic relationship to share affection and yes, sex is important sometimes too. If you have to mark your calendar then do so. Spontaneous sex is always great but it’s not always necessary. Sexual relationships are good for the soul. Sex is a healthy function of the normal adult and a healthy sex life should be striven for in your relationship.

 

There are infinite ways to spice up your relationship and keep the spark alive. Your life together is much more exciting when passion is important to both of you. Create a safe and clean space, carve out ‘together time,’ and have fun. Contact us for more information about couples, relationships, and financial planning.

How to Make Downsizing Fun After a Divorce

If you’ve recently went through a divorce, you may have thought about downsizing your home? Homeownership comes with its rewards but it can also be challenging if the mortgage is larger than your new budget. Maybe you’ve thought of getting a smaller house but then you remembered you the children. However, with the right mindset, you can reduce your mortgage costs with children. You just need the right “selling points” to make this work. Here are three:

Savings

Obviously, when you downsize you will save substantially on your mortgage. With the extra money you’ll pocket every month, your family can enjoy nicer or extended vacations. Or there may be long-term financial benefits. The savings can help pay for future educational goals of your children. Maybe one of them has always wanted private music lessons or karate classes. Whatever the case may be, you will have a bit more wiggle room for all those things kids always want. Use this as a selling point with them.

Family time

Nothing says family time like being closer together physically. When you downsize, chances are you can get a little bit closer to the kids. Some of the children may need to share a room, depending on how many you have. Your new home may have only a living room instead of both a living room and family room. This can be a positive experience if you promote doing more together as a family.

Highlight “special feature”

Just because you’re downsizing to a smaller home doesn’t mean you won’t find a plus in the new home that your current home doesn’t have. For example, maybe you can find a downsized home that has more yard space, more privacy, or even a pool in the backyard. Or if your current home is not close to other houses, the new one may have close neighbors, which means other kids to play with. You may find a home that is smaller but has a unique loft that your kids will love to fix up and make their own. Look for something special in the new house and sell that to the family. Downsizing with kids is certainly a bigger challenge, but your perspective makes all the difference. With a little work, you will have the whole family excited about the idea.

Five Ways to Rescue Your Relationship

1. Treat your partner as you would your best friend or customer
2. Be unexpected and thoughtful
3. Look for ways to complement your partner 
4. Avoid arguments about the past
5. Spend regular, quality time alone

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